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"My aim is to put down on paper what I see and what I feel in the best and simplest way." 

 Ernest Hemmingway 

My truth...

I believe I have spent my life hiding and then being saddened by not being seen.  I set myself up for feeling small and then blame you.  However, recently, I have been given the courage to live more honestly.  I have a new openness to show you my whole self; my personality, my sense of humor, and most importantly, my heart. It is a willingness to do that that brought me to start Naked Random Thoughts...

I have no idea what I am doing and no clue whether you will find anything I have to say interesting, insightful or helpful.  I do hope that at least one person finds something comforting in my words but the point of this whole deal is for me to be honest in how I am living.  To be accountable to myself and in turn, you.

This isn't completely altruistic - I also want to heal.  I want to stop being afraid to own my life.  My most sincere hope is that the life that I have lived and what I have learned from that life just might make a difference to someone who is suffering similarly.

May we each learn from each other and may kindness, love and authenticity prevail.

  • Understanding the Gender Dynamics of Retaliation in Divorce: Exploring Women's Responses

    Understanding the Gender Dynamics of Retaliatio...

    Divorce is a challenging and emotionally charged process that often involves complex dynamics between spouses. One notable aspect of divorce is the tendency for women to exhibit more retaliatory behaviors...

    Understanding the Gender Dynamics of Retaliatio...

    Divorce is a challenging and emotionally charged process that often involves complex dynamics between spouses. One notable aspect of divorce is the tendency for women to exhibit more retaliatory behaviors...

  • The Vital Role of Co-parenting Classes in Preserving Children's Well-being During Divorce

    The Vital Role of Co-parenting Classes in Prese...

    Divorce is an emotionally challenging experience, not only for the couple involvedbut also for their children. While the end of a marriage may be unavoidable, itsimpact on the children can...

    The Vital Role of Co-parenting Classes in Prese...

    Divorce is an emotionally challenging experience, not only for the couple involvedbut also for their children. While the end of a marriage may be unavoidable, itsimpact on the children can...

  • Be Still and Know...

    Be Still and Know...

    Ok, what if I don’t want to? Like either one. I don’t want to be still and I am not all that sure that I want to know. And yet,...

    Be Still and Know...

    Ok, what if I don’t want to? Like either one. I don’t want to be still and I am not all that sure that I want to know. And yet,...

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  • Heart Hurting...

    Heart Hurting...

    If I told you about ego or mind hurt first, you would all relate. So I guess I will. Mind hurting or ego hurting is when we don’t get what...

    Heart Hurting...

    If I told you about ego or mind hurt first, you would all relate. So I guess I will. Mind hurting or ego hurting is when we don’t get what...

  • Open Hearts

    Open Hearts

    Ok I have not been a poster child for this one...I have, for the most part, kept my heart closed for the majority of my life. This was due to...

    Open Hearts

    Ok I have not been a poster child for this one...I have, for the most part, kept my heart closed for the majority of my life. This was due to...

  • For Valentine’s Day You Are Getting...A Divorce!

    For Valentine’s Day You Are Getting...A Divorce!

    Getting a divorce is hard any time of year. The holidays, no bueno. Summer, not great either. There is no good time in life to have children, and there is...

    For Valentine’s Day You Are Getting...A Divorce!

    Getting a divorce is hard any time of year. The holidays, no bueno. Summer, not great either. There is no good time in life to have children, and there is...

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  • Willed Anxiety?

    Willed Anxiety?

    I never knew. How much my will was a cause and undercurrent for anxiety. Believing that I had power, that I never really did. Believing that I could change things...

    Willed Anxiety?

    I never knew. How much my will was a cause and undercurrent for anxiety. Believing that I had power, that I never really did. Believing that I could change things...

  • The Hot Lover - Control.

    The Hot Lover - Control.

    God help me remember my desire to control as a reminder to experience each moment, completely new and fresh... Oh if it were that easy... I control to feel safe....

    The Hot Lover - Control.

    God help me remember my desire to control as a reminder to experience each moment, completely new and fresh... Oh if it were that easy... I control to feel safe....

  • Inner Strength...

    Inner Strength...

    I close my eyes when I work out. The harder it gets, the more likely I am to close my eyes and go within. Maybe lots of people do this...but...

    Inner Strength...

    I close my eyes when I work out. The harder it gets, the more likely I am to close my eyes and go within. Maybe lots of people do this...but...

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  • Prioritizing Children's Emotional Needs During Divorce

    Prioritizing Children's Emotional Needs During ...

    Divorce is a complex and emotionally challenging process, not only for the couplesinvolved, but also for their children. It is crucial to put children's emotional needs ahead of the divorce...

    Prioritizing Children's Emotional Needs During ...

    Divorce is a complex and emotionally challenging process, not only for the couplesinvolved, but also for their children. It is crucial to put children's emotional needs ahead of the divorce...

  • Acceptance Isn't Always a Bitter Pill...

    Acceptance Isn't Always a Bitter Pill...

    Lately I have been accepting things, people, life as they are. It isn’t easy because I want to change them up, make them into something else entirely. But that hasn’t...

    Acceptance Isn't Always a Bitter Pill...

    Lately I have been accepting things, people, life as they are. It isn’t easy because I want to change them up, make them into something else entirely. But that hasn’t...

  • Folding In...

    Folding In...

    This how life feels to me. I am always just folding in new things and with the addition of those new things, some old things either seem to dissipate or...

    Folding In...

    This how life feels to me. I am always just folding in new things and with the addition of those new things, some old things either seem to dissipate or...

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